Love is meant to be beautiful and everything nice and a relationship between two people who love each other should be as exciting, effortless and fulfilling. A relationship that leaves you stressed and hurt every other time is prolly one that you shouldnt be in at the first place. A potentially abusive relationship shows all signs of being one and that is why you shouldnt just blindly be in love with someone without first taking time to love yourself.

We’ve seen or heard a lot of cases of Love gone sour even to extremes of spouses killing each other and many a times we ask ourselves whether they never saw it coming. The truth is no one plans to be in an abusive relationship and according to research, many of the women who manage to escape from such a relationship swear to themselves that they will never go into another one like that only for them to unfortunately land in another one. Even unfortunate is the fact that statistics show that it takes an average of five to seven acts of violence before a woman makes the big decision to leave her abuser.

The best and most effective way to prevent such an incident is by not getting so deep into such a relationship at the first place. To be safe, You should keep your eyes wide open to detect the early signs of one.Here are a few signs of a potentially abusive relationship,

1. He comes on too strong – He will utter words like “I’ve never loved anyone like this before.” its only normal that words like this will pressure you into commitment but most of the times are signs of an obsessive partner.

2. He shows alot of jealousy- If he is excessively possesive, throws tantrums over petty issues and doesnt potray trust in you.

3. He is controlling- If you have to explain your wherabouts and actions every other time and He interrogates you intensely about everything to the extent you feel like a prisoner, then you should be worried.

5. He cuts you off from people-He tries to spoil your relationship with your family and friends in one way or another.

6.He uses force during sex sometimes jokingly If He enjoys mishandling you or forces you to engage in unwanted sex acts then you should be worried.

8. He abuses you verbally- If he is constantly dissing you, talking to you in a manner that is degrading or using vulnerable points in your past/life against you.

9. He sets rigid gender roles- If he is too traditional and believes that a woman’s place is at home and expects you to serve and worship him just because he is a man.

10. He experiences abrupt mood swings-He is happy and loving one minute and the next he goes to angry and incontrollable.

11. He has a past of violence-If he has hit women in the past but is not sorry and explains it as a case where the woman pushed him to.

12. If he threatens you with violence-If he threatens you with statements like “I’ll break your teeth,” but then explains himself with “I really didn’t mean it.” and you let it go merely cause he didnt do it, you are just heating the oil that will fry your ass.